virtual contacts

Hello.
I am writing every day in the site and spend a lot of my time(free and when I am at work) during the PC, surfing in Internet. I know, the technology is the future, but from time to time, I am wondering, don't we use our skills to communicate , because, I think, it's different to speak with somebody in Internet than face to face. The real contact is more alive, including special moments, as you know in virtual contacs we could meet people present themselves like someone else, with different appearance and character. Of cource, it's not a guarantee, when you contact with somebody face to face, you couldn't lie in him like a person, character, ect.
I have a bad experience not only in virtual but in real contacts with different people, but may be the romantic side of my character is stronger.
What do you think, is the virtual relationship more useful? Of course, they are necessity, if we take into considerations our busy way if life.

hi evelin
i agree with you - while i do think that virtual contacts are convenient, meeting in person does allow one to gain a better understanding of the other.
though i love a good long chat over coffee, families and social networks being what they are today (far-flung, international) i find myself feeling equally grateful for chance online meetings with friends and relatives 1, 2, 7, 10 time zones away.
and of course, virtual contacts are also great for quick correspondence between people living in the same city.

I met my wife to be online, so I'm biased but I'd say meeting people over the internet, is, if you use some common sense, much safer than picking someone up at a bar for example. E-mail exchanges or online chats, let you learn something about each other. If you can maintain an online relationship over several months, you must have some things in common, and you get a feel for the other persons personality....this is just my personal opinion and sure the Tabloids love recounting horror stories like 'Online lover was real life Hannibal the Cannibal' Newspapers love a good scare story. As I said use a bit of common sense and by and large you can spot someone with psychopathic tendencies. Always arrange to meet anyone from online in a public place, so that if they look nothing like the photograph of the 6ft tall supermodel which they sent you, or they are carrying an axe} you can always do a runner. If anyone S interested in meeting others from this forum face to face, may I refer you to my 'Invitation' posted under Going Out/Free Time.

Col

I think both methods of contact can be valid and cool; just different.
The most important thing to consider in virtual or real world is where you first meet these people. I think the same rules apply to both methods of contact.
Virtual meeting can be a way to find out more about someone as most people are a lot more candid online than in person. This goes for people you already know as well as new acquaintances.
I had a really cool experience once online with someone I had met through business. One night we were chatting and as it was late she took her laptop to bed (sorry not that sort of story). She got tired so I typed her a bedtime story (again, not that type of story). When I had finished I just continued working through the night and it was morning when she replied again. We just continued chatting as if we had awoken together. It was really nice and none of that nasty morning breath to worry about. It was the first time I had "slept" with someone before meeting them.
Cheers

Hi there,
I just want to give you my personal view on the above matter and experience. After two disastrous marriages I more or less had condemned myself that I would never allow myself to meet another guy ever again. And even after hearing from a close friend of mine, a woman, similar age, who had been through two marriages met a so-called charmer online; and before I knew it; she got hitched in Las Vegas; then came running home crying that he'd embezzled all her bank accounts. This really set the alarm bells ringing in my head; and made me more determined to be VERY VERY careful. Now with my last posting re: the arrogant Aussie man; I decided to experiment and chatted in various rooms on internet. I wasn't looking; I must admit; and had made virtual online friends; then lo and behold; this Scotsman introduces himself; and the rest is history.... By the way, I'm a believer in FATE!!

yes i have also had success in the past meeting people online - one woman in particular. we're not together anymore, but that had nothing to do with the internet!
but i am just wondering if other people feel the same way i do:
that after a while of chatting to someone online, you can read inflection and tone in someone's word choice - and even punctuation! - and communicate just as well and deeply online as in person, where other cues, like posture, hand gesture, eye contact send signals.

jim

Hi there,
Jimmy5, it is true. It takes a while but it is possible to pick up or convey a lot by how some one types by use of specific grammar or symbols. I couldn't talk to one girl online until I started using those damn smilies for example. It can make everything really nice.

Talking online to someone you already know is damn tough though. If you already have had visual clues in conversations and are use to talking in person then it is near impossible to do it online without some misunderstandings. There are more expectations that you will understand what both of you are saying without taking into account your writing style.
Just a thought,
Cheers

Virtual contacts are special. They oftentimes may get romantic as people start fantasizing about the person they don't see anywhere but on the webcam or they hear on the mike or receive emails from.
However, all this ends the moment the people using the internet meet. Then all that has happened to them in the virtual space is put to the test and if the test is successful, then it's all for the best, if not, then there's always another try.
There are things you can never know about in an online contact like how good your partner is in bed for one.;)

Zebra,
some people are just too busy to get a bed partner in any other conventional way. The interner is already a well-established means of finding a partner in anything.
If you do 10-12 hours of work every day, just when are you going to go search for a guy/ lady to be intimate with?
Haven't you seen movies like You've got mail and Sleepless in Seatle?
Don't underestimate the sheer power of the internet and may the force be with you;)

In my opinion there is no such thing as an online relationship, it's not a real relationship, online and real world don't even compare in this aspect. Say you meet someone online and then meet him in real life, then thats a different thing. But someone you just talk to exclusively on the internet? I can't see how that could be a real friend..

Hi,
This is a world of technology and internet is the
latest technology these days.You have many contacts on internet with friends and strangers.Virtual contacts are all false and fake contacts mostly lie on the other side.Real contacts are something different it is a face to face meeting of two people watching each other alive.
Its a real fun and pleasure in meeting a person live especially strangers.But virtual contacts are somehow getting more popular these days.I don't believe on virtual contacts really don't trust on it.I am in complete favor of real contacts.

Thanks...

I myself believe in virtual contacts and presently going on 5 years of marriage to a wonderful woman which was my contact. But as they say Opinions are like a*****les, everyone has one.

The said thruth is that we are so busy nowadays that we do not have the time to make and maintain a proper relationship with people.

I sometimes nostalgically remember the old days, when there was no mobiles even, when you could just drop by at a friend's house, just to check whether they are in and what are they doing....

On the other side I also met my husband over the internet.

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February 08 2010